To My Invisible Reader
This post appears on Maternal Alchemy
I just realized that my husband’s ex-wife (whom I have never met) reads my step-daughter’s blog, and I am linked on her blog. I wonder if Shirley reads this?
So, Shirley, if you do read this, this is what I want you to know:
I have no ill-will towards you at all. In fact, I respect you for your strong mothering, your fortitude, and your accomplishments. My husband’s issues with you are his alone.
I’d like you to know that I love your children… at least the two who have come into my home. I love the other three vicariously. They are amazing children; you should be proud. You should also know that I have no need to become their mother or a parent-figure. I have four of my own, thank you very much. They keep me quite busy. I just want to be their friend, a close member of the family. See, no worries?
Please encourage all of your children to blend with the two families. It is blessing for everyone when there is forgiveness, understanding, and a whole lot of sense of humor. Life goes on, but for children who have issues with their parents, life is very hard. Brent and I have been married for three years now… isn’t it time to move forward?