Who Are You?
Are you a different person at home, at work, at church, or elsewhere? Does your personality change with the situation and group of people you are with?
These questions were posed to me last night and I have been pondering them.
What if we were the same regardless of where we were and who we were with? What if we were always our “authentic” self?
I can look back over the last few years and see that I was NOT my authentic self in most situations. I was a totally different person at work than I was at home, and a different person at Church all together. However, with the personal work I have been doing I can say that things are better. Not perfect. But better.
There are certain people with whom I can be my real self. These are few. But they know who they are. They are those who understand my story, my woo, my spirituality, my commitment to things that I have embraced in the past and those I am embracing now. These are the people with whom I can share my deepest thoughts and fears and confusions, without worry that they will think I’ve freaked out or that they might freak out at me! To those of you who are in this place in my life: I love you. Thank you for being a safe place for me.
So, is it because I worship the “God of What Will People Think”? that prevents me from being authentic in all situations? Perhaps. I do feel a certain responsibility to not disturb others. Bottom line: I don’t want those I love to think I am in distress or in a state of confusion. So, I don’t go into the gory details of my life, my thoughts, my beliefs with everyone.
Why be utterly authentic? Well, it takes a whole lot less energy to just be yourself than to always be wondering what you can say to whom. And also, people feel safer around you because you are always you. Not some ever-changing version of yourself.
So, I pose these questions to you: Who are you? How does your authentic self differ from the personas you wear in various situations? Why do you feel you need to be a chameleon? What are the fears that hold you back? Would you indeed be happier if you were always the same person.