A Deliberately Quiet Weekend

Mar 26, 2007 by

I did everything intentionally this weekend. From the changing of the sheets to the baking of cookies. Everything was done with deliberate intention.

I knew I would be finishing “Eat, Pray, Love” and I wanted to savor it. Savor every last word, like an experienced wine-taster would sniff and swirl and swallow. I wanted the quiet of my living room to read about Elizabeth finding balance, just as I hoped I would be able to follow happily behind her.

Sleeping was a needed element in my recipe for this quiet weekend. I slept dreamlessly and awoke well-rested. My weekend lay before me without definite plans. I could have gone to hang with the woo-girls. I could have run hither and yon on various errands. But with deliberateness I chose to be home. I chose to spend most of the weekend in silence.

Silence is a discipline I don’t engage in. I am by nature a conversational person. I love words. I love thinking my words. But I wanted my mind to still. Shhhhhh, I would say to myself. I am just quietly being. You don’t need to go on and on, I know it all. Shhhhh.

So, I decided this weekend I needed a new spiritual discipline. And I found it. Wow, did I find it. You know you have found your new spiritual discipline when you keep stubbing your toe on it. And then when you don’t notice your toe throbbing, it whacks you in the head. And all this comes from just thinking you need a new spiritual discipline.

So this is it: Every time I find myself in judgment of someone else (and frankly that happens about once every 2.4 seconds) I turn it around and send love to that person and forgiveness to myself. So, on the way to work this morning I see this man sitting in the passenger seat of the car next to me. And he looks horrible. Like he’s had a weekend bender times 400. My first response was, “Wow, there’s a drug addict.” and then I sent love… lots and lots of love for him. Praying that he would be blessed today to feel ok and to overcome whatever his issues were, if he even has issues (because that was my judgment).

And then I thought, “Wow… if we would all just send prayers and love to those we are judging, this world would really be a different place. I mean, think about it… in the moment praying for our children, our spouses, our bosses, our waitresses, our dentist… instead of getting pissed off. This could radically change the landscape of our lives, and the lives of those around us.

So, that’s what I’m working on. What is your latest spiritual discipline? Oh, don’t even think you don’t know what it is, because as soon as you read that question one popped into your mind. I will let you know how it goes.

And all this from a weekend of deliberate stillness… deliberate chocolate chip cookies and chicken defrosting, of deliberate laundry, and deliberate reading. Deliberate journaling and deliberate silence.

It is good to live consciously.

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  1. glo

    You’re about the 5th person I know who chose to turn off the phone and indulge in a quiet weekend for one reason or the other. It must have been in the water.

    Might I say – I’d take some of those deliberate chocolate chip cookies.

  2. glo

    Oh – forgot to answer the question – my spiritual journey right now is about turning off the internal dialogue and listening to the non-me that knows all things and can guide all processes.

  3. I bookmarked your blog the other day, and found myself flipping back to you today. Anyone who uses the phrase “thither and yon” in their writing is worth reading, in my opinion. I think you’re pretty fabulous, actually.

    What popped into my mind? A voyage of self-discovery, aided by scripture study and prayer. In other words, I’ve got my priorities out of whack and it’s time to do something about it. =)

  4. LOVE this post!

    I’m inspired.

  5. b.

    Me too.
    I’m inspired.
    I really like you.
    Same awakening and realization for me this weekend, now I’m purposefully doing something about it. Thanks.

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